Feb 10 2010
Walt Decherd Lesson Of The Day
Self Improvement Lesson of the Day
Walt Decherd Lesson Of The Day By Cherie O’Neill
Constantly comparing yourself to others? It’s time to STOP now! This destructive behaviour deflates your self-confidence and self-worth and you may even give others the impression of being envious and resentful. Not really the kind of person you want to be, right?
Genetics, low self-esteem, societal pressure and having a perfectionist streak can all contribute to this bad habit. In today’s society there are so many areas for women to feel inadequate. Are you a good mother? Are you a good housewife? Are you pretty enough? Are you thin enough? Should I contribute more financially? We are constantly worrying about what we can offer and then basing our self-worth on this.
Consider this; approximately 98% of women are equal or less than you in abilities, talents or personality, and we still manage to compare ourselves to that “other” 2%!
Which Sex is the Worst Offender?
So are females the worst offenders? You may have thought this initially, but you could be wrong…
Women tend to define themselves through their relationships with others. Men however tend to measure their self worth by the job they do and their financial contributions to the family.
Today’s society seems to aggravate both sexes’ comparison issues. We live in a culture where our success seems to be measured by how much money we have, our material possessions and how many “important” people you know (and these people are not necessarily what you label friends either!).
It can be hard to convince yourself you have self-worth when you see images of celebrities who may be your age, have the same amount of kids, but are wrinkle free, cellulite free and still manage to look carefree!
It is important for both men & women to feel good about their self image and the things we have worked for and achieved right at this moment, whether it is material possessions you’ve worked hard for or the friends and family you love to spend time with.
Green with Envy
Speaking of “Green” there is no denying envy can be detrimental to your health. Envy has been linked to a range of physical ailments including depression and anxiety. It can also make you think you are a “failure” because you cannot be that “prettier, richer, smarter” person. You cannot make a positive change to your self development plans if you are wasting all your energy on negative comparisons and ill feelings.
What You Can do to Improve Your Self-Worth.
The good news is you can use envy as a useful tool for motivation. Examine what is in your control to improve yourself. For instance it could inspire you to follow a better diet and exercise regime if your goal is to look & feel fit and healthy. It could mean updating your skills and qualifications if your goal is to better yourself financially by getting that promotion.
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